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How to Thrive in Everyday Life as an HSP and Introvert (Guestpost)

By Bonnie McConaughy

As a highly sensitive person and introvert, I find everyday life can be challenging at times. I have slowly learned how to thrive with these parts of my personality constantly along for the ride. While it can be easy to find information about how to thrive in various aspects as an introvert, there isn’t a whole ton of information about highly sensitive people dealing with everyday life.

First of all, let me tell you a bit more about what a “highly sensitive person” is. It means being more sensitive to pretty much everything, from your own and others’ emotions, noises, smells, sometimes sights, touch, and all kinds of pain that people can feel, among other things. This makes a simple day seem overwhelming at times. For me personally, I can get overstimulated really quickly and my emotions can be all over the place, especially when I am around other people. What they feel, I tend to feel on some level. Depending on my connection to each person, some I feel stronger than others. I only realized that I was a highly sensitive person a couple years ago, but it makes so many things click into place in my present life as well as my past!

Most of us know what an introvert is, especially if you are one. I always knew I was an introvert, but I wasn’t always aware of what that meant to myself or other people. The more introverts I met and the more I read about it online or in books, the more I became familiar with the way things work for me. I like being alone and I thrive on being alone most of the time. Sure, I crave contact and conversation but most days I could do without. If I’ve been around other people, even if I felt totally fine and even happy while I was with them, I come home and feel exhausted. It takes a lot out of me to interact with others. I am learning that that is just part of who I am and it is perfectly okay. We are all different and introversion is not a point of failure. Now I take pride in being an introvert, and if you are one too, then you should as well!

Now I will list some of the things that have helped me as a highly sensitive person and introvert. Many of these can apply to both, but use them as you see fit in your everyday life:

  • Celebrate who you are: You were made this way for a reason. I firmly believe that we all have something to offer in this life and we should find joy in whatever personality traits we have.
  • Walk away or take breaks as needed: No one says you have to be present for everything, all the time. Excuse yourself or simply take a break, depending on the situation, and collect yourself. More than likely, you will feel better after you have had a breather!
  • Ask for help: If you need someone else to take on more responsibility because you have had your fill with interaction, ask someone to take over or if they can simply help you so you can get done and escape faster.
  • Take care of yourself and your health: Your health and wellbeing are important. Make sure you are practicing basic self-care and getting what you need each day!
  • Pamper yourself from time to time: We all deserve to pamper or treat ourselves on a regular basis. Go to a movie by yourself or with a loved one, go out to eat, have a movie night in, read a book, or anything else that strikes your fancy and helps you feel recharged!
  • Journal and reflect: Take time each day to journal and reflect on your feelings, or your day. I like to focus on positives, talk through negatives, and simply work through things this way. Sometimes blogging can be a great way to do this while getting feedback from others who go through similar things too.
  • Do your best to stay within your own thoughts and feelings: Stay within your own head as much as you can. Be compassionate, kind, and understanding, but keep the rest out of your mind as best as you know how. This is one I’m still working on but focusing on what I feel and what I’m personally doing at the moment, helps me so much to tune out the rest of it!

Whether you are an introvert, a highly sensitive person, or both, be proud and remember that you can thrive in this world. These are blessings in disguise because we all have something incredibly important to offer!

Bonnie McConaughy is the owner and founder of Inspire the Best You (www.inspirethebestyou.com), where she writes about weight loss, healthy living, self-love, and personal growth. If you are interested in those topics, stop by and read her blog! She is also a freelance and ghostwriter (www.bmcconaughy.weebly.com).

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14 Comments

  1. Really liked the tips…I have been practicing quite a few of them for some time now and have felt much less anxious and more at peace in social situations I couldn’t avoid. I have been an introvert all my life and have been proud to proclaim it openly for some while now. The realization that it isn’t a flaw in my character but a major part of who I am, really set me free. I like who I am without being critical of how others are…after all, who would like living in a world of clones, right? 🙂

    1. admin

      Thank you! And absolutely true. I just realized it’s okay to be introvert and also that I always looked at it as being inferior to extraverted people, which is just crap ofcourse. Thank you for commenting!

  2. Thanks for this insight it helps so much to know that I’m not the only one out there. While I would not consider myself and introvert, in fact the exact opposite I do live daily with serious health issues that “trap” me daily. I love the tips and journaling is one of my favorite things to do. Here’s to productivity and independence in spite of it all!

    1. admin

      Thank you so much for commenting Marla, sorry it took me a while to react. It’s always good to know you’re not the only one, isn’t it? Comforting, even when it’s about illnesses you wouldn’t wish on anyone.

  3. One of the important things is realising what you are. The exhaustion after interacting with people always had me confused. My son and I both came to this conclusion about the same time and developed things to do to minimise the exhaustion. Sometimes it means limiting the number of people or number of consecutive days that we interact with others.

    1. admin

      Knowing how you’re wired is such a big deal in the search toward health and happiness! It’s great that you and your son are both like that and can work together in trying to make things easier. Thank you for commenting and reading, it means a lot!

  4. Love this, I am a self confessed introvert and need to abide by all these tips more often! I love your niche and name for your site! I too am about happiness. If youd like to collab sometime email me! b@thebhivelifestyleblog.com

    x

    1. admin

      Me too, definitely! Thank you! I would love to, will email you! 🙂

  5. Jen

    This is absolutely me. I blogged not that long ago about the same topic. I am an HSP and introvert. I am a labor and delivery nurse and believe me when I say, going to work and doing my job for 12 hours takes everything out of me. It’s a pretty outgoing, intense job to have for someone who struggles with this. But I do love what I do. I’m also the mom to three amazing kiddos, ages 13, 7 and 1. Because of my work schedule, I have one night every week I stay up all night (I work nights) so I can sleep the day of my first day back at work. It’s those uninterrupted 8 hours of time that get me through the rest of the week. That’s my time to recharge, decompress and just think without all the noise. Realizing how important that is to me was a huge step to becoming more comfortable being an HSP and introvert.

    1. admin

      Your job does seem very intense! And a home filled with kids is lovely, but also very busy I imagine. Great that you found a way to get some hours for yourself to get yourself back together. That’s not only important for you and your health, but for everybody around you. I notice that i’m very irritable when I’ve had too much things going on around me, and some me-time is really necessary for my boyfriends own safety!

  6. Well being an introvert myself, I do relate with this post so much. Being misunderstood by people because I sometimes like to keep to myself is something that has always bothered me. Just like you said, I, too, thrive on being alone but it isnt something that I can do most of the days because you “have” to be social and (un)productive!
    As much as I like to communicate via writing, I hate doing that in person! I guess I should stop writing anymore 😁
    Loved the post though!

    1. admin

      I didn’t think of it this way yet, but now that I have I know I do thrive when I’ve got days at home in solitude. I get so much more done and I am much less tired and irritable! Sometimes I really look forward to a day or a night completely by myself. Thank you for commenting!

  7. These are great tips! Taking a, break & asking for help are my two struggles everyday.

    1. admin

      Thank you for commenting Robin! 🙂 It’s not easy to let go and give yourself a break when we secretly feel we have to be productive and independent all the time. It’s so important though!

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